An unfortunate constant throughout the ages that has suppressed the identity of  a variety people, but women in particularly. There is a Youtube video that has gone viral entitled “Like a Girl” (Always. “Always #LikeAGirl.” YouTube. Always, June 2014. Web. 28 June 2014). This gave me a sliver of hope that women could breakout of the undeserving stereotypes they have been pegged with since it was possible to do so. However, I rarely see males advocating the identity of women if they aren’t attractive or half-naked. The same could be said about how women see men; for example: A traveling party tour, called “I’m Shmacked,” hits all the large Universities in the country and they throw a huge event for the students. On tour in two-thousand-thirteen, I’m Shmaked went to the Florida State University  and interviewed dozens of students, posing the question Nice Guys versus Assholes.  Blogger, Taylor Irwin crafted her own synopsis of the I’m Shmacked event that supported her claim that sexism is a seriously underrated matter especially among people in their formative college years. “It’s like the commonly used excuse, ‘If she calls herself a bitch, why can’t I?’ And it’s true, if women speak of themselves like a piece of “ass,” then expect men to gladly do the same” (Irwin, Taylor. “FSU’s Take On ‘Nice Guys vs. Assholes’ Is Traumatizing Filth.” Swagger New York. Taylor Irwin, 2013. Web. 03 July 2014).

As a young woman myself, I hold myself to a standard and never put myself in a situation where being treating as an object is an option.  It doesn’t directly effect me because I don’t let it, but I do speak out when I see or hear someone’s identity is being used as a weapon to harm them. It is my moral obligation to do so; to not only represent myself and other women strongly but those who feel as if they cannot speak out for themselves.

After hearing one of the handful of speakers stand up to an objectifying statement made at the “Sex After Dark” talk, it made me proud to be a woman that has self-confidence and self -worth.  The comment, ‘how many girls does a guy have to fuck to be a whore,’ created an entirely different dynamic for the evening. The speaker grabbed the mic and let the crowd have it. She stated that it was a despicable question that is no one’s business regarding the number of men or women a person sleeps with. Question such as these, are rude awakenings of the ignorance that is unjustly contaminates the world.

Obliviously the older generation of women are more affected by sexism because of their exposure to the world views of women. The girls gave their best effort to show what ever the director told them to do with an uninfluenced opinion about the stereotype, “like a girl” versus the older women who wish they could redo their impression of what they think it means todo something “like a girl.”  The voices of people like the speaker from “Sex in the Dark,” who stand up and speak out against sexism are the difference makers in the world. Without these people, women and or men that fit in this category, would be suppressed by the stereotypes such as “like a girl” rather than being appreciated and noticed for who they are in a positive way.



  1. This made me feel really bad because it is making it seem that it is mostly the guys fault. Girls have just as much to do with this idea the the men do. Girls in most cases are worse then guys and if you are a girl and you are gonna go and get with the entire football/ baseball team then you really have no argument because you are kind of digging your own grave. You can’t do that and not expect people to think differently about you and say things about you and lose some respect for you. I am in no way saying that guys aren’t at fault sometimes but the girls have most power in situations like this. All I’m am saying is that guys are always used as the scape goat when in reality more tan half of the time it is the girls own doing that gets her treated that way.

  2. This is often a topic where we are all looking for something or someone to blame, simply because we don’t want to blame ourselves. It is often the fault of the silent majority for not stepping in that is the issue. If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem, and in context, to allow our peers to do things you disagree with is granting them our social permission, and moral justification, that because nothing was said, they have not done anything wrong. If the people that desire change are too afraid to swim up stream and be the E Pluribus Unum, then the change shall not occur because they value their personal safety of social status quo, over their social respect for their values of humanitarian standards. We are all the problem so long as none of us decided to be part of the solution, and admitting to our faults of a lack of intervention is the first step to solving the social epidemic.

    1. I’m interested to hear how this is a “social epidemic”, Sam. Do you mean this figuratively? How do you translate your thoughtful comment about systemic blame to the issue of systemic sexualization that Gabrielle is pointing out? I agree with Gabrielle, too, that she is looking at the objectification of both men and women through sexualization. Or, per the writer Michel Foucault, perhaps it’s the process of objectification that PRODUCES the effect that things are sexy and indeed sexuality itself.

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